Why Does Grief Make you Angry at Friends and Family?
Why does grief make you angry?
This is a question many people ask when they are dealing with the loss of a loved one. In this post, we will look at some reasons why grief makes people angry.
Anger is a Normal Part of Grief
Anger is a normal part of grief. And it’s not just a natural emotion or response; it’s actually good for you. Anger is a sign that you care.
Anger is also an expression of grief—it's a way to deal with what has happened in your life. If someone dies unexpectedly without having made any arrangements beforehand, surviving family members may feel overwhelmed by their unexpected responsibilities with little support from other family members or friends (especially if those people are grieving too). So while anger may seem like an odd reaction to losing someone close, it doesn't mean we didn't care about them before they passed away! It just means we're upset about having been left alone without warning.
Previous Trauma
It's normal to feel angry when you're grieving. It's also normal to feel angry at your friends and family for not understanding what you're going through or for making mistakes about how they support you. Previous trauma can frequently resurface when we are grieving, making our grief even more complicated and contributing to our anger. The following list describes some of the types of trauma that might cause anger in a person:
The death or serious illness of someone close;
Being physically attacked or threatened with violence;
Having one's home broken into;
Experiencing childhood abuse such as physical abuse by parents/caregivers (e.g., hitting a child), emotional neglect from parents/caregivers (e.g., being ignored), or witnessing domestic violence between parents/caregivers.
It's normal to feel anger at friends when you're grieving.
You’re not the only one who feels this way. Many people experience anger when they grieve. It’s a normal part of the grieving process.
When grieving, you may feel angry at friends, family members, or even yourself. You may be angry at God for taking the person you love away from you or leaving you alone to deal with it. Multiple times, I asked God why He would take my son and what did we do wrong.
The most important thing to remember is that your anger is just a part of grief. It's not something you can control, and it will happen whether you like it or not. Instead of trying to avoid feeling angry at all costs, accept your feelings and let them flow through you without giving in to them.